It’s the Most Wonderful Time of the Year

I know that almost everyone says that Christmastime is his favourite time of year. What with the gift-giving and merrymaking, the festive songs of the season, cheery greetings and sincere wishes for a happy time, who among us - even us non-christians - doesn’t truly enjoy it all? Of course, it has its problems. The stress of finding gifts for loved ones and strangers alike, not to mention gifts for co-workers and in-laws, robs the act of its inherent joy. The endless parties can become a chore, the relentless upbeat mood you must don can wear your nerves thin especially in the face of everyday responsibilities or even personal tragedies (which we choose to hide from others all in the hopes of not marring what could be a perfect Christmas). So much heavy sentiment for a season that got its start with a quietness and nobleness lacking in today’s celebration of it. I am not a christian. I follow no religion nor adhere to any otherworldly philosophy. But I was raised in a house that celebrated Christmas with the decorating of a tree (always artificial) and the giving of gifts. I always loved walking through downtown and hearing Christmas songs piped over PA systems both in the shops and outside on the street. Many stores' systems were linked together, so you could wander from store to outside to store and never miss a line of any song. We always had seasonal songs playing in our house, too. I wore out an old Firestone record that my father had with Leontyne Price’s lofty voice singing “Ave Maria” and Dean Martin crooning “Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer”. There’s that glint of tradition again: you see, Firestone used to put out collections of Christmas songs from the best singers of the day. Vikki Carr, Bing Crosby, and Andy Williams. Later it was Anne Murray, Julie Andrews, and Lou Rawls.

While I do enjoy Christmastime, my favourite time of the year is (’m sure it’s no surprise) autumn. The days grow shorter but somehow brighter. The skies are clearer since the purple haze of summer has been banished. Robins sing their late good-byes (to borrow a phrase from Cheryl Wheeler), and the aerial V’s of geese and ducks point their way southward. With all the bustle of the harvest and the labour to pack in stores for the winter, one might think this a hurried and noisy time of year. But the opposite is true. Quiet blankets the land, and carpets of gold and brown muffle all manner of crunch and crack. A hush falls over people as they marvel in the show of colour all around them. Yes, this is my favourite time of year. There are no parties to attend, no frantic dashes to find a gift. A nice prelude to gather one’s strength for the coming holiday season.

It's Official!

The Fall has arrived. As of this morning, the Fall has arrived. Even though the days continue to be warm, the temperature fell below 60º F last night. And according to this week's projections, it will fall to 52º F for the next two nights. I am happy.

The forecast also calls for sunshine, always a welcome accompaniment to cooling autumn days. Cheryl Wheeler sings:

When Fall comes to New England
The sun slants in so fine
And the air's so clear
You can almost hear the grapes grow on the vine

The nights are sharp with starlight
And the days are cool and clean
And in the blue sky overhead
The northern geese fly south instead
And leaves are Irish Setter red
When Fall comes to New England

When Fall comes to New England
And the wind blows off the sea
Swallows fly in a perfect sky
And the world was meant to be

When the acorns line the walkways
Then winter can't be far
From yellow leaves a blue jay calls
Grandmothers walk out in their shawls
And chipmunks run the old stone walls
When Fall comes to New England

The frost is on the pumpkin
The squash is off the vine
And winter warnings race across the sky
The squirrels are on to something
And they're working overtime
The foxes blink and stare and so do I

'Cause when Fall comes to New England
Oh I can't turn away
From fading light on flying wings
And late good-byes a robin sings
And then another thousand things
When Fall comes to New England

Oh. My. Vishnu.

I was introduced this past weekend to a new vocalist: Matt Alber. I cannot say enough good things about him, about his voice, about his songs (in his debut album, "Hide Nothing").

The fifth song on the album is called "End of the World". Without exaggeration of any sort, I can honestly say that since I first heard the song on Sunday morning (and this is Tuesday morning), I have listened to it over and over about 100 times. Possibly more. I cannot keep myself from listening to it. I am sure that there are many reasons why. Possibly because barely two months have passed since I left a relationship of almost two years with someone I loved. Possibly because my heart aches at this loss, not to mention the loss of other boyfriends and good friends in my past. Possibly because I am feeling alone and a little adrift at this point in my life, and this song focuses that sorrow, distills it and pours it out in such lyrical phrases as "Don't you want to fall/ Don't you want to fly/ Don't you want to be dangled over the edge of this aching romance?" and "If it's gonna end then I want to know that we squeezed out every moment".

Truly heartbreaking. But in a good way, a reaffirming way. What is being reaffirmed, you ask? Love. The Pursuit of Happiness. Life.

Add me to the list of people who have fallen hopelessly in love with these songs. And - for a moment - with Matt Alber himself.

Check out his website and you can listen to the songs. www.mattalber.com/matt.htm

Summer 2010

I am fixing my eyes on Alaska. For my summer escape. I spent five formative years of my childhood there, from 1971 to 1976, in Fairbanks. I recall well the drive from the lower 48 up the Al-Can Highway, then just a dusty, bumpy path through the wilderness. My imagination tells me that in the 21st century it must surely be paved, modern filling stations spaced every 200 miles on the edge of civilization, through parts of the map of the world that few ever get to know. Towns with names like Destruction Bay, Swift River, Yellow Knife. Names that invoke a past full of men untamed and untameable. I want to be one of those men.

Several plans have bubbled up in my conscious, the wildest and most daring being a drive from southern Georgia (where I currently reside) westward, through the plains states, into Colorado (for a first taste of wilderness) and then north through Wyoming, Montana, and into Alberta. Then I would hitch my wagon to the north star and let it lure me ever northward along the Al-Can Highway. How is it that trips through the wild inevitably lead us back to our childhood?

The Fall

I lived for two years in Australia during the early part of the century (2002 - 2004). During my time there, I found that Australians loved to poke fun at us Yanks, their jibes and taunts covering topics from how we hold (wrongly, in their expert view) our forks and knives during a meal to which words we use to describe various things. In some respects I see their point and I actually agree that the Australian way has a certain offbeat ring to it, a fun flavour, if you will. Among some examples are: "sausage sizzle" instead of "cookout" or even "barbecue"; "knackered" instead of "exhausted"; or (one of my true favourites): "a dog's breakfast" instead of "a total mess".

One meek little word that was often the object of their derision was the rather unassuming 'fall'. As in the season of the year, what they would call 'autumn'. This is where I must rise up in defense of our Yankee words and draw a line in the lexical sand.

It is possible that most Australians - and surely their British counterparts who join in on the verbal bashing - fail to see the poetry at work in the word. Allow me to explain.

For starters, I like to call it The Fall. Not merely fall. By including the definite article (the) and placing the word in capitals, this time of year becomes an Event. Like Christmastime. Or the World Cup. By writing it in lower case 'f', the word loses its poetry, its majesty. Even the quotidian likes of the days of the week are graced with capital letters. So why not this (I would argue) most majestic of seasons?

No one makes a special trip to Vermont to sit in a forest and experience the leafless trees draped in snow. No one plans a vacation or even a long weekend to behold the splendour of New Hampshire in the summer because its summer. It is the Fall, ablaze with colour, that draws us in, beckons us like pilgrims to a holy place.

All beauty, by its very nature, is transient. A thing to behold today but likely faded tomorrow, like Robert Herrick's old poem, "To the virgins to make much of time", tells us:

Gather ye rosebuds while ye may,
Old Time is still a-flying:
And this same flower that smiles to-day
To-morrow will be dying.

We could change the words to read:

Drink in the colours while ye may,
Old Winter is come a-calling:
And these same leaves that blaze to-day
To-morrow will be falling.

One last blaze of glory before the leaves fall. A mass gathering of colours that lasts about three weeks at which time begins the Falling of the Leaves. The Fall. It's a wonderfully active word. I can see each leaf stem detaching itself from its branch and beginning its slow and zigzagging but inexorable descent to the earth. And this leaf is not alone. There are millions, billions. As countless as the stars.

'Autumn' is a fine word, and one that I like very much. It's an attractive word with its austere pairing of 'au' and silent final 'n'. But it's just not The Fall.

Winter

Clouded with snow
The cold winds blow,
And shrill on leafless bough
The robin with its burning breast
Alone sings now.

The rayless sun,
Day's journey done,
Sheds its last ebbing light
On fields in leagues of beauty spread
Unearthly white.

Thick draws the dark,
And spark by spark,
The frost-fires kindle, and soon
Over that sea of frozen foam
Floats the white moon.

- Walter de la Mare

Summer is lovely, too

I have been languishing in the depths of a balmy southern spring. And summer approaches. No end in sight to the heat. This year has actually been - thankfully! - a mild one. It stayed cool all the way through April, and even touched a bit of May.

I want my travel plans to take me north this year. Montreal, I think. Perhaps Maine. I would dare to dream of Iceland or Alaska, but the expense keeps these places out of my reach. Québec may just be the ticket.

Of course, while the northern hemisphere basks in warm sunlight, life on the other side of the globe becomes ever colder. The snows of Patagonia call. Maybe even Peru or Bolivia. I would like to share a snuggle in the cold with Kevin. Maybe.

Last night I let my thoughts before sleep set the stage for my dreams. I was traveling around the globe, hitting Scandinavia and Turkey, southeast Asia and New Zealand. Adventure. Walking. Quiet. Solitude.

Why am I longing to be alone when all I can do is miss the friends of my past? I miss Thomas. I miss Evelyn. I miss Kevyn Gibson and Kurt Sanders. I miss Paul Jones. I miss being able to call up at the last minute and run out for a bite to eat, or a (strong) drink at the Merc. I miss the laughter. I miss the shoulder to cry on. I miss the advice, given and received.

I can't seem to meet people like them these days. No close friendships. I feel drawn to no one. Only Kevin.

At any rate, my searches through the internet have brought pictures of Torres del Paine, in the Chilean Patagonia, to my attention. What a wonderful place. Towers, indeed. And snow. And ice. Looks like paradise.

Autumn Approaches

There is something about this time of year that always makes me introspective. Everything I see or smell seems to trigger a memory. The low humidity brings a less diffuse light, and everything appears in crisper focus. Colours are brighter. Blues were never so blue.

And the familiar smells of an approaching autumn are so comforting. The occasional whif of a burning pile of leaves. Strong spices begin to take their place on menus: nutmeg, cinnamon, cardamom. Pumpkins and squashes are again popular.

Of course, my favourite holidays come three in a row: Halloween, Thanksgiving, and Christmas. In the middle lies my mother's birthday, another special time for a family day.

evensong

crimson leaves on wet black boughs
white clouds in blue skies writing
soil and sweat on furrowed brows
against short days are fighting

autumn’s sun is high o’erhead
and summer’s birds are fleeing
winter’s white finds flowers dead
whilst springtime’s babes are sleeping

all the streets are candlelit
the horse and buggy tended
jack-o-lanterns grinning sit
all wrongs by all-saint’s mended

fireflies, brief, dance for hours ere dawn

crickets sing till the moon has gone

(an original poem by Brian Nelson)

Winter Thoughts

Thinking again of winter, or, to be more precise, of snow. I am sure that I have said it before: there is no quiet more complete or all-enveloping than that of snow. To lie in a field knee-deep with snow is truly to be at peace. And I have found myself in need of such peace these past few weeks. No specific sense of stress, or tension, or dread. Just a vague desire to “get away”. Most people long to lie on a hot, sunny beach in some tropical latitude. For me, it’s the white pristine reaches of the northern world.

What a delightful poem I have recently found. It is "Blizzard", by Barbara Reiher-Meyers:

Gale warning hail warning
Sky sifts high drifts
Finding bright blinding white
Snowball snowfall
Moonscape snowscape
Frostbite dost bite
Rococo swirls hot cocoa curls
Icy glove spicy love
Huddle in cuddle in
Rock salt clocks halt

- - - - - - - - - -

It is 12:13, just past midnight. Today is my grandmother’s birthday. She is 84 years old. Many winters come and gone, and still she lives in Ohio. No snowbird, she.

In the Bleak Midautumn

It is early October. Autumn has come. And I, of course, have been dreaming restlessly - while both awake and asleep - of the coming change of seasons. And while autumn is, indeed, upon us, nowhere in southern Georgia can we sense its presence. Mornings are balmy, evenings warm and calm. The full moon at the end of September was massive and bright, the colour of ripening pumpkins. We receive rain regularly during the week. We are in deep bayou. I even saw a lone wysteria bloom the other day amid a tangle of greenbriar vines and an unkempt mass of azaleas.

I have been playing songs of Christmas, anticipating the coming onslaught of holidays. Christmas songs never cease to delight me, to life me up. They are solemn, they are playful, they are silly. And in spite of the religious sentiment with which they are imbued, I receive their christian foundation like I would any other wishes of good tiding.

Among my favourite Christmas hymns is the poem “In the Bleak Midwinter”, by Christina Rosetti. It was written around 1872 but was not published until well after her death in 1904. I like the first stanza the most. It evokes a sublimely chilly yet stark wintry world:

In the bleak midwinter
Frosty wind made moan
Earth stood hard as iron
Water like a stone
Snow had fallen
Snow on snow
Snow on snow
In the bleak midwinter
Long ago

The Road to Nowhere

The three-year anniversary of my move to the small southern town in which I live recently passed. People have frequently asked me how I ended up in this town. They are particularly puzzled at the fact that I live here once they learn that I left Sydney, Australia, hopped on a plane, and zoomed 14,000 miles across the globe to take up residence here. "Why on earth ...?" they ask, their faces scrunched into a prune of an expression.

Why, indeed.

Let us invoke a well-worn cliché, shall we? The Road of Life. She is long, she is sinuous, she has many surprises in store for us. My road has brought me here. But I don't really regret it. Why? you gasp. Because at the end of that long, sinuous road lay Freedom. Not in some ridiculously nationalistic and oh-so-typically American sense of the word, but in the deeply personal sense. I chose the dregs as a way of getting back to basics, of being myself again. Ah, sweet freedom.

I have celebrated many firsts since my arrival here. Recently I purchased my first computer. I also got my first cellular phone. Last year I paid for my own vacation completely by myself for the first time in my life.

There seems to be a little pattern emerging: this freedom of which I spoke seems to be a financial one, doesn't it? But it's more than that. It's the freedom to be myself at any moment, without apology, without self-consciousness, without remorse. I like who I am becoming, the me that I am re-discovering. And doing this all on my own, with no friends near, has been difficult, but well worth it.

Life in a Southern Town

Recently, at a rehearsal for an upcoming concert of Händel's Messiah, I engaged in a brief but very friendly introductory banter with a woman who looked to be in her mid-sixties. She was warm, friendly, and very southern in her lil-darlin' approach, and I was warm, friendly and candid in my warm yankee return.

She asked me if I was a student at the university. (We rehearse in a music room on the campus, as our director is also the choral director there.) I answered that no, I was actually a faculty member. She thought I was too young to be a faculty member and added that if I wasn't careful some young local girl was gonna snatch me up 'cause I was so good-looking.

I informed her that that was highly unlikely as I was gay.

Without batting an eyelash, but with the smile noticeably less bright on her lips, she said, "You're not from around here, are you?"

I believe her response sums up better than any example could the way southerners think: in order to be from here or live here with even a modicum of success, one must hide everything novel, odd, out of the ordinary, or anything that might approach the appearance of impropriety. In other words: hide everything that will give the neighbours something to talk about.

This also sums up why I hate the South so ardently. Oh, it's a lovely place. Lovely trees. Lovely scenery. Lovely homes. It's really just the people I hate.

And the mosquitoes.

The Eternal Wisdom of Bill Watterson

Winter is the favoured playground of Bill Watterson, the creator of the comic strip Calvin and Hobbes. It is in the snow that Calvin comes into his most mischievous and devious self. While others might wish to breathe in the peace and utter calm of the season, it is Calvin’s aim to break the silence with a war cry and shower of snowy missiles.

The Pooh Connection

A. A. Milne must also have held the snow and all things wintry in as much esteem as I. The proof of this lies in The House at Pooh Corner, where the tubby little cub has made up a comforting little hum to hum to himself as it snows. He decides to teach the hum to Piglet, and they set out then to teach it to Eeyore as well. This is how it goes:

The more it snows

(Tiddely Pom),

The more it goes

(Tiddely Pom),

The more it goes

(Tiddely Pom),

On snowing.

And nobody knows,

(Tiddely Pom)

How cold my toes

(Tiddely Pom),

How cold my toes

(Tiddely Pom),

Are growing.

While on their way to visit Eeyore, Piglet becomes ever more covered with snow and suggests - quite timidly, “because he didn’t want Pooh to think he was Giving In” - that they return home to practice the hum a while. Pooh agrees that it is a very good idea, indeed, but that they must practice it outside, because “it’s a special Outdoor Song which Has To Be Sung In The Snow.”

I wonder if I know any Outdoors Hums for Snowy Weather.

Travels of an American Traveler

I recently visited Spain for the first time. (Okay, it was back in mid-March, but I’m just now getting round to posting this.) Many things were as I expected them to be while others were not. For example, I fully expected to find myself besieged by second-hand smoke wherever I went. And so I was. Bars, restaurants, cafés, doctor’s offices, bookstores, subways, nurseries ... the list was endless. The official estimate is that one in three Spaniards smokes. A sad truth, to be sure, but hardly surprising as all Spaniards - boys and girls alike - are given a pack of Camels and a lighter on their first birthday. On their second they are taught how to roll their own.

Now, something that I did not expect was to hear anyone complaining about the smoke. To be accurate, I only heard three people complain the entire time I was there, and in a country with a population of just over 40 million, it seems that those who would rather live without smoke are in an extremely small vocal minority.

Anyone who has heard that Madrid is a place to party all night has definitely got his facts straight. Since most madrileños do not even contemplate heading out for pre-dinner drinks and tapas (lovely little appetizers that go quite well with a red Rioja or a sparkling Cava) until well after 8:00 p.m., it is not surprising that someone could easily find himself rocking up to his flat at 5:00 in the morning to grab a quick shower and a change of clothes before heading back out for a strong cup of coffee and some churros on the way to work.

My friend Kathleen (my partner in crime while in Spain - pictured at the right) and I became two such people one ill-fated evening in Madrid as we agreed to meet her friend Lorenz (a fun German bloke who now resides in Madrid) for some drinks at a small corner pub around the corner from our hotel (the unremarkable Hotel Liabeny) in the city centre. Several smooth glasses of red wine later (from the region of Navarre, in the north) and we headed out the door, on our way to meet Chris (a bloke whom Kathleen and Lorenz knew from work in Manchester, England) and his lovely wife Barbara.

Now, the Madrid tradition is to hop from pub to pub, sampling the wine and tapas, gabbing about local politics and other savoury issues of importance, and soaking up the ambient cigarette smoke into your lungs and your clothing. (I still have a black jacket that reeks of smoke from that night.)

We ended up at a lovely bar that only a place like Spain could produce. You had your choice of a front room or a back room, both dimly lit and featuring a man strumming his gypsy heart out to the sounds of flamenco. The front room was only sparsely populated, but the back room was full from wall to wall, with people assembled to hear the flamenco stylings of anyone who wished to regale his fellow pub-goers. The guitarist was paid by the pub, but the singers were not professionals. They were - in the strict sense of word - amateurs: lovers' of their art. They contorted faces and pain-racked voices lent testimony to the melancholic content of the cante jondo, the songs that they sang. One such singer was a local diva (a local diva who had obviously recently been ridden hard and put away wet). We drank, we clapped in tempo, we drank some more, we applauded the talent of other patrons. One beautiful young woman was so moved she stood and danced oh so quietly in place, her hands and arms skillfully twisted over her head.

A Snowy Silence

I can think of no greater peace in the world than that of a snow-filled landscape. There is something about snow that muffles all sound, that hushes even the most raucous of nature’s creations. As a young man I would wander in the fields behind my father’s house to steep myself in snowy silence. Like a sunbather soaking up the midday rays, I would lie on my back in a drift of snow and let the silence penetrate my skin. I would listen for the wind in the naked branches of the forest, for mice under the snowdrifts, for the flap of a raven’s wings. And through it all there was no one. Just me. We lived on the top of a large hill in upstate New York. To the west our closest neighbours lived half a football field away; to the east the closest lived a whole football field away. Behind the house lay a quilted network of fields and woods; a stream crazy-stitched itself across it in spring. And I could wander undisturbed, no brothers, no father, no troubles.

I think that Robert Frost must have felt the same. His poem “Stopping by a Woods on a Snowy Evening” captures the sense of awe that a snow-filled woods inspires in a weary traveler caught out on a cold December day:

Whose woods these are I think I know.
His house is in the village though;
He will not see me stopping here
To watch his woods fill up with snow.

My little horse must think it queer
To stop without a farmhouse near
Between the woods and frozen lake
The darkest evening of the year.

He gives his harness bells a shake
To ask if there is some mistake.
The only other sound's the sweep
Of easy wind and downy flake.

The woods are lovely, dark and deep.
But I have promises to keep,
And miles to go before I sleep,
And miles to go before I sleep.

My Belovéd

I have often heard it said, from a varied assortment of sources, that in a relationship there always exists a lover and a belovéd. This duality, so the party line goes, is omnipresent and eternal. Recent events and musings of a personal nature have made me examine this assertion again, and I have begun to wonder whether it is as true as so many think it is.

Another way to approach this concept is to see it in terms of the pursuer and the pursued. There is one who takes a step forward - toward the belovéd - and another who takes a step back - but (and this is key to the survival of this dichotomy) not away from the lover. It is a dance. A tango. The belovéd, predominantly a male figure throughout history but not so today, leads with his left foot, stepping vigorously forward, toward the object of his desires, who, generally a female counterpoint (but again not so today), takes a matching step back with the right foot.

It is no accident that dancing involves two people facing each other, facing each other off. He looms; she rises to meet. He advances; she slips furtively to the side, and backwards. But she is not running from him. No. Remember: she is facing him. Enticing him. Luring him. Calling him to follow her. They keep stepping, moving, circling. If she were truly fleeing, her back would be turned and she would be wearing footwear more suitable for sprinting than for the foxtrot.

True Grits

Should someone in your vicinity begin to muse - spontaneously - about what little boys or little girls are made of, before he can begin to quote the old rhyming recipe about snips and snails or sugar and spice, you should ask him where the little boy or girl in question comes from. Because if said child should hail from the south, the recipe invariably will have to be expanded to include grits.

People say that in the south cotton was King. And in the minds of many surely tobacco had its heyday. But grits are the true regent of the southern realm, and don’t let anyone ever tell you any diff’rent.

Most people (myself included) that were raised north of the Mason-Dixon line probably think or thought at one point that grits are breakfast food, something akin to Cream of Wheat or oatmeal (or porridge, to our Aussie and British kin). While it is true that grits are eaten at breakfast, they’re not just for breakfast anymore. Cheese grits are a common accompaniment to lunchtime fair, and many is the table that has been graced with grits in the evening alongside fried okra, fried squash, fried hushpuppies, fried catfish, or collared greens (not fried, but certainly fried if southerners could figure out a way to make it palatable).

I have come to enjoy grits a great deal ... at breakfast only, I’m afraid. With a pat of butter. Alongside my southern-fried steak and country biscuits smothered with sausage gravy. It don’t git no better ‘n this.

Happy Thoughts

I was struck recently by the happy thought that a complete stranger could have such a significant and (more importantly) positive effect on my life. Actually, they are two complete strangers. A couple. And they have no idea what joy they have quietly brought to me.

I think that most of us never do take a moment to ponder the myriad ways in which a complete stranger can have this effect on us without ever meaning to. The other person - or persons - is just going about his daily existence, unaware of the inspiration he is providing. It is easy to think of the negative effects that Others can have on us. And by and large those Others are all complete strangers. Grocery clerks, department store clerks, Post Office clerks (it seems that all clerks might as a rule be evil), taxi drivers, fellow passengers on public transport, fellow passengers in an elevator, fellow pedestrians on the street or in a mall, customer service representatives. These people we encounter on a daily basis wield uncommon power over our lives: one wrong move or ill-placed word and they can ruin a whole day, forcing men and women from all walks of life to sink to dark and despairing corners of our psyches, conjuring up Mephistophelian tortures and punishments and casting spells of wicked intent.

But the couple of which I am speaking uses its powers for good. Quiet, unassuming good. They are a man and woman, each somewhere in his/her 70s. They seem to have been married for at least 50 years. The right side of the man's face is paralyzed and hangs somewhat on his skull, lending him a slightly sad and humble look. His wife's face bears the lines of many years of laughing and crying and worrying. There is a long story to be read there.

I first encountered them about three months ago at a coffee shop which I began frequenting. They were obviously regulars, bringing their own coffee mugs out of which to sip their morning brews. I go to the coffee shop about four times a week, Fridays through Mondays usually, and occasionally on Wednesdays, and no matter the day, there they are, sitting quietly across a table from each other, reading. Each day it is something different: a novel, a magazine, a newspaper. And what is so pleasant and intimate is how they will each share a line or two of what they are reading, and the other listens and then responds. After so many years together they still have the ability to engage each other, to share new knowledge, to listen to each other. It’s inspiring.

Of course, I could be misjudging them completely. They could have just met six months ago via an Internet chatroom and so everything they do is new and fresh to the other. They could have fallen into a horrible coffee-dependent rut after only six short months, and they are looking desperately for a way out but want even more desperately not to hurt the other’s feelings and so they pretend to be interested in everything the other says.

But I hope that my first instinct is the right one.